12 Sep Sometimes You Just Need To Stop Talking
Here is what kills me about the fitness industry: the constant need to talk.
And this may be more so than any other industry, with people trying to tell others how to train based on their version of “research.” Of course, I’m in the the midst of the shit storm using my massive biceps to put people in their place, but sometimes it’s an uphill battle.
This isn’t exclusive to fitness, however. I’m sure there are other industries with similar narcissists floating around.
How about online dating?
You may find yourself stuck out to dinner with a pompous d-bag who talks about himself the entire meal, with the only words you get in edgewise are, “check, please.” The only thing you got out of it was being a sounding board to feed his ego, but hey, at least you got a free meal out of it. Whoop, whoop! Women in the mother-effing house!
Alright. I’ll stop with the modern romance undertones.
Needless to say, wherever you go, you’re bound to come across a supply of a-holes whose number one priority is talking all the damn time, or proving people they’re right and you’re wrong.
You have those who believe hypertrophy training is the answer to fat loss. In the other corner, you have those who tout “functional” strength training as the answer to fat loss. In fact, you best be doing your Farmer’s Carries for that grip strength, which translates over to a strong deadlift, which helps you carry your grocery bags in the house, which helps you drop 1-2 pounds a week. Science.
Moving onto nutrition, you have those who believe eating meat will turn you into an animal killing, heartless soul. Oh, and you’ll die, you meat-eating-son-of-a-bitch. Vegans, where you at?!
And you have those who believe eating FroYo topped with Reese’s puffs, brownies, and a pound of chocolate chips will get you down to 9% body fat. Because, you know, #macros #IIFYM #ISwearImADietician #BuyMyMacroEBook
Turning the discussion to movement, you have those who believe you should NEVER flex the spine. Crunches? Oh, hell naw! You’ll get a herniated disc and be forced to be celibate the rest of your life. And you have those who say, some flexion is okay. In fact, I’m flexing my lumbar spine now as I write. My body is still in one piece and I’m able to be a witty goddess. I should donate my body to research.
Of course, I could babble on about different opinions and arguments in the fitness industry. And you know what I just realized? For someone who is writing an article on how people need to shut the fuck up, WOW! I’m chatty. LOL.
So now I digress.
This all brings me back to a quote I’ve seen on numerous occasions from my favorite strength coaches:
“You have two ears, two eyes, and one mouth for a reason. Use them in that order.”
It’s a shame because I feel this piece of advice is earth shattering for some.
Sometimes, we all need to do a better job of just listening. As a coach, this could mean hearing about your client’s day before you start a session. Or perhaps you remember they were going to a party, and you kindly ask about the event. Or you ask a youth athlete how their first day of school went. Human skills 101.
Or, if you’re at a workshop, listening to what the speakers have to say, instead of being that a-hole in the audience who asks questions he already knows the answers to. You know, just to hear himself talk and sound smart.
If you need a resource to help you with active listening, check out this book The Lost Art of Listening. It’s a stellar read for anyone looking to better their relationships, friendships, and training business.
I’ll step off the soap box now and go be quiet. Thanks for reading. Or, should I say listening? ;-O