How to Create The Life You Want

How to Create The Life You Want

I’m writing this as my 252nd published blog post.

As a blogger of 2 meager years, I find this impressive. And maybe you do too.

You see, back in 2013, before I got into online writing, I was in a terrible place.

Staying in my comfort zone was the norm, and I did very little to explore the excitement of taking risks, action, and making shit happen. Rarely, did I live through creativity and authenticity.

Fast forward to 2014, my life changed.

And truthfully, I started creating my life when I was 24 years old.

I got out of a shitty relationship, fully transitioned careers, and started my blog.

I remember when my boyfriend and I broke up at the time, it was one of the most devastating events in my life.

There were tears in my eyes, gut wrenching feelings in my stomach that I didn’t have an appetite, and I felt lost, empty, and confused.

At the same time, feelings of hope, change, and personal evolution laid deep inside my psyche, and shouted to me that I’ll be okay.

“Maybe it’s meant we go our separate ways. I have so much I wish to accomplish in my career, like starting a fitness blog,” I said to me ex boyfriend.

And he answered, “Do that. You deserve to share your talents. Start a blog.”

This statement has forever been imprinted in my mind, and despite our heartbreaking break up, something overwhelmingly positive came out of it all: I created my website domain, created my logo, and started writing blogs like a madwoman.

Now, here I am, 252 blog posts in and couldn’t be more grateful for this tragic event to have occurred in my life. My work has been received by many, including people from all over the world. I’ve inspired hundreds, have had my work featured in major fitness publications, and have made long-lasting friendships with strength coaches whom I’ve looked up to over the years.

This was the *exact* turning point I needed to take my life to the next level and follow my dreams.

So do I recommend breaking up with your current BAE?

Well, no. But if you feel icky and like you need to recreate your life, don’t be afraid. Just take the leap because in the end, it always works in your favor.

Here are 3 ways to start creating the life you want:

1.) Get out of your comfort zone.

Starting my own blog was just about as uncomfortable as going on a blind Tinder date, fearing the guy wouldn’t look as hot as he did in his profile picture.

Alas, getting out of your comfort zone begets growth and personal evolution. Even though it can feel weird and shitty at first, the only way to develop is to get comfortable with being uncomfortable.

When I wrote my first blog post, I was terrified to hit publish because I worried about what people would think. ‘What if I fail?’ or ‘What if they don’t like my content?’ were thoughts that flooded my mind.

However, the more I moved into putting work out there because it was my passion, made me care less about others’ judgements. You can NEVER go wrong with exposing your passion work because it comes from the heart and a genuine place.

Another nugget: the reward for putting yourself out there and being vulnerable will be nothing short of tremendous, and not to mention, far greater than the reward it would’ve been to put your tail between your legs and hide your talents.

So this bears repeating: you must take risks to hone growth and be seen. Period.

2.) Keep learning.

Honestly. Educating yourself is key to personal and career development. You create a limitless life by soaking up all of the information you can and using it to get better at your craft.

I’ve written a plethora of articles on books I’ve read to take my career, relationships, and life to the next level. Because you can’t grow on your own. Sometimes, you need others and outside information to facilitate the process.

You can read here and here to find some ways to get started.

All it takes is to open your mind and begin. Books = growth. End of story.

3.) Be confident.

Maybe it’s easier said than done. But I beg to differ.

All you have to do is own who you are, embrace your talents, and share them with the world.

It’s THAT simple.


Because by sharing your talents – whether that is writing about training, nutrition, or mindset – you’re doing others a service.

You can’t go wrong by helping others. So be confident in your abilities and share through a space that is genuine and wholehearted.

Hopefully, these insights will propel you to create your life. Once you catch a glimpse of the magical power of creation, you’ll never stop.

So grow a pair. And get started.

  • Carole
    Posted at 22:40h, 02 July Reply

    Thank you for your advice Erica. I agree about keeping an open mind about learning. Growing through reading and educating ourselves to help others better. And yes, authentic and wholehearted advice all the way. Thank you Cx

    • erica
      Posted at 23:27h, 02 July Reply

      Of course, Carole. Glad you enjoyed the read 🙂

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