As much as you think you’re a human, you’re not.
And as much as you think you’re manifesting the full experience of being one, you’re far from living it to the fullest.
And as much as you think you’re setting an example for others to be their true selves, you sure got a lot of photoshopped Instagram pictures with captions about authenticity that no one reads.
Look. If there’s anything you get from this article it’s to be more human.
Because this much I know: most people’s lives are like a Michael Bay Transformers trailer: they look explosive and vibrant from the outside, but lack depth and layers on the inside.
All thanks to social media, we only see everyone’s highlights, wins, promotions, engagements, and grandiose rooftop Sunday brunches with besties.
I’m calling bs.
Sure, it’s awesome to see people doing awesome, and I’ll be the first laud people who are crushing life, all while enjoying themselves, traveling, and spending time with loved ones.
But only presenting the positive becomes problematic when, instead of connecting us to others, it disconnects us from others.
Humans crave connection, no doubt. We freaking need each other to evolve into the most magical versions of ourselves, and sometimes, we need people to remind us that it’s okay to not be perfect, and it’s okay to have a glass of pinot once in a while.
The good news is, it’s starting to become normal for people to pour their souls to the world. We live in a day and age when it’s easy to share ourselves with others, from our personal lives, to traumas, to hardships, to weird obsessions with collecting Magic Cards, to being addicted to watching Shark Tank, to having a hardcore alter ego who enjoys rocking out to dubstep music.
Personally, one of my favorite things to see is on pop culture news when celebrities openly talk about their mental health struggles. For people who we put on a podium and who appear invincible, it’s nice to see an itty bit more real-ness, as well as veer away from the usual who-is-dating-who, who-wore-it-better, who-signed-a-deal-with-Versace shenanigans, and who-uses-what-mascara-for-the-red-carpet.
I don’t care. And as Kendrick Lamar says, “show me something natural like some stretch marks.”
It’s refreshing to escape the superficiality of life, and return back down to Earth, deep within the caves of the imperfect human condition.
When the rapper Logic talked about his struggles with anxiety, my mind was put at ease.
When Selena Gomez talked about her depression, the world experienced relief.
When Abby Wambach opened up about alcoholism, people were shocked, yet it propelled others to take action on their own issues.
And I know all of these topics are icky, and worse yet, may cause you to jump to judging and berating and critiquing, all while uttering, “well, they’re messed up!”
But as much as alcoholism, depression, anxiety are stomach-knotting to talk about, we need to do more of it.
Be more human.
Taking the conversation to other shortcomings, weaknesses, and insecurities, we all suffer from something. Whether this is jealousy, hate, comparison, or self doubt and loathing, none of us are immune.
But be more human.
Because when you let your guard down and show the world how amazingly human you are, weaknesses and quirky tendencies and all, you’re doing others a service – one that allows them to relate to you, acknowledge their own traumas, and begin on their path to healing.
Be more human.
More importantly, show yourself doing so.
I don’t care if you went to a festival, head banged like an idiot for eight hours, and wore something so outlandish people stared at you like you had gold chains on you or something.
I don’t care if you missed a penalty kick in the state cup final you found yourself with your head in your hands and tears streaming down your face.
I don’t care if you failed a Scissors move attempt and tripped over yourself with your crush sitting in the school bleachers watching.
I don’t care if you have an obsession for Lord of the Rings and learning the Elvish alphabet.
I don’t care if you took a picture with your “bad side” showing and your arm mushed up against your armpit that made you look ten pounds heavier.
I don’t care if you don’t look like an Instagram Influencer in booty shorts, hair extensions, and the Lo-Fi filter on so your butt looks more luscious.
I don’t care if you forgot to clean the toilet for your spouse.
I don’t care if you overworked as a soccer mom and needed to be selfish and take a few days to yourself.
I don’t care if you proudly shared your rest day on Facebook.
Be more human.
Of course, none of this is to say ignore your shortcomings and fail to improve, evolve, and do better next time, but rather, be more gracious and forgiving with yourself. And of others. Love what is.
So what if you mess up.
So what if you fall short.
So what if you fail people.
So what if you fail yourself.
Be more human.
Because when you do this, it opens up space for others to do the same. And when others break down their walls as bravely as you, you’ll find a new exuberance of human connection.
And you’ll be able to share you mess-ups and “oh crap!” moments more freely with others, which inspires you both to be and do better. This is planet Earth: we’re here to be fully human and uplift each other along the way.
Compliments are awesome, acquiring Likes is alright, doing cool things to brag about on SnapChat is whatever, but it’s the times that are dark and gut wrenching that serve as impetus for growth.
I mean come on: we all need each other to be more human. And if we’re living in a sugar coated fallacy and a pretense of perfection, none of us are truly connecting to one another because we aren’t being our true selves.
“But what if people won’t approve of my true self?!” you wonder.
You’d be surprised how many people will thank you and shower you with love when you let the walls fall down. In fact, let your walls crumble into pieces so hard that others can walk through the rubble with you and help you to build it back up. Collective effort is the only way to grow and assemble something magical and resilient.
And moving beyond this, it’s everyone’s job to encourage other humans to be more human by appreciating and loving others for their shortcomings.
Less judgement, more acceptance.
Less critiquing, more understanding.
Less assumptions, more critical thinking.
Less jealousy and hate, more encouragement and love.
Be more human.