Money is an icky subject.
And no matter if you’re rich or poor, it’s fucking weird to talk about.
The rich person, for one, is anxious to discuss money because he doesn’t want to sound like a pompous a-hole.
In the other corner, the poor person is ashamed to talk money because they feel they aren’t where they should financially be in life.
You see, EVERYONE cringes when they talk money. It’s as uncomfortable as being a dude and expressing your deepest, darkest emotions with a hot chick. Or as uncomfortable as being a Democrat crashing the Republican convention. Or as uncomfortable as being the only female coach at the NSCA strength coach conference.
So to that end, why is money such a scary subject?
Well, most of us place our self value on how much of it we make. Basically, our self identity relies on money.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been on a date with a guy, and the first thing he tells me is his job.
In his eyes, a good job = money = status = self identity.
What’s really happening here is, it’s selling himself short of his true worth.
On a side note: if you’re a dude, no need to show me your tax forms. Show me your soul.
Now none of this is to say money doesn’t matter at all. It absolutely does. But when people put their self worth into money’s hands, that’s when things get hairy.
Instead of seeing money as a means to an end, let’s see it as a tool – a tool to blossom into the best, most badass version of ourselves, so we can shower people with love, and growth, and wealth.
Personally, I love making money. And while this may sound greedy and selfish to you, you probably should understand who I am and what I do with it.
I love having money because I get pleasure in treating my friends to dinner. I smile when I’m able to treat my own father to a coffee and breakfast. I am relieved when I can pay medical bills from going to the ER. I am happy to buy my mom a flight to Paris. I enjoy buying new equipment for my soccer players to take performance training to the next level. I get joy when I can travel and see my college friends. I love tipping the Starbuck’s barista extra for her hard work. And I kind of love having money to put gas in my car so I can get to work every day.
Just some things to ponder.
Am I spending money on reckless shit? No.
Spending money, and wanting to make money, for that matter, shouldn’t be seen as evil. It should be seen as a generous and normal act.
After all, as Neale Donald Walsch says, “we’re all here helping each other. No matter what job you have, the human race is here to help each other to solve a problem.”
What. A. Mind. Fuck.
Oddly enough, people aren’t open-minded enough to think this way. But I urge you to wake the fuck up and start.
Too often I hear people say, “oh, so and so just wants to make money. They’re all about the business.”
HA! Well, I got news for you: the whole Universe is about business.
Wouldn’t you agree we’re here on planet Earth to conduct business, namely, exchange of goods, energy, and possessions?
I mean come ON…think about it: we make transactions with others every damn day.
And I’d argue, these financial transactions are exchange-based. Which is so cool and powerful and awesome.
As an example, I train soccer players, parents pay me for my training, but then I go out to watch my players play in their games, spend money on gas, and support someone in all the way through their athletic development. Then, they later go on to play in college, get a good job in the real world, and go off to live independently.
Eventually, the money all comes back around. Even if it doesn’t, at least these kids played sports and stayed out of trouble growing up.
Or, I spend money on a coaching course to improve my knowledge of the game, meet some fantastic coaches, and open up for more exciting opportunities in the soccer world and become a more awesome version of myself. Sure, continuing education is a pretty penny, but I’d argue it was money well spent, don’t you think?
Instead of complaining, I was grateful for the experience money gave me.
Look: money isn’t about accumulating material things and adding value to your ego. It’s about accumulating awesome experiences (traveling to soccer games, meeting people, connecting, etc) and giving back to others. Taking the conversation back to Neale Donald Walsch, we all make money to help others.
And that’s the honest truth.
So let me challenge you with this: that business guy who you gossip and spread rumors about, “oh, he’s ALL about making a quick buck,” may be a single dad with a newborn to feed. Again, helping someone else.
Or that soccer club you hate on for raking in loads of money on camps, is spending that money on equipment, nice turf fields, and new, awesome infrastructure and uniforms for its youth players. Again, helping others.
Or that CEO you talk shit on, is donating to charity or to the children’s hospital every year. Again, helping others.
Or that woman who side hustles for a pyramid scheme, wants to be able to spend more time with her kids. Again, helping others.
Again, money is an EXCHANGE and way to help others. We can make as much as we want, but eventually it just moves on. It’s always in motion – never lost, never gained, just in motion, and normally, making its way through the human race.
And that’s super fucking comforting. Nevertheless, you can’t actually lose your money. You can only get it in motion and help others.
After all, money is about what you give back to the world. Perhaps you’re exchanging goods, services, energy, whatever it is, you’re exchanging and helping other people to level the fuck up.
Especially, if you’re spending money on your creative pursuits, business growth, health, other peoples’ health, clients, family, friends, gas to get to work, fresh food, which most people are, then I’d say that’s a major success. Job well done.