“Life begins where fear ends.” – Osho
One of my favorite thinkers of all time couldn’t have said it any better.
Today I want to discuss fear in the realms of fitness, business, sports and relationships.
A few years ago, I decided to make the scariest decision of my life: starting this blog. Despite my fear of vulnerability, I had an insatiable desire to write, create content, and connect with others. But truthfully, I was fighting a gut-wrenching feeling in my stomach and immeasurable anxiety before clicking “publish” on my first article.
Looking back, accepting my fear and facing it head on, has lead to tremendous personal development, professional growth, and creative fulfillment.
258 blog posts later, and my fear was trivial at best. I’m still alive. And I didn’t die, right? ;-O
And sometimes I wander, why the hell was I even scared in the first place?
You see, here’s the thing: nothing bad can come from facing fear.
But what can be detrimental is allowing fear to freeze you from moving toward your authentic self. You let it grab hold of every facet of your life, knot your stomach, stagnate your energy, and leave you inactive and unproductive.
Before I provide solutions to transcend fear, let’s first discuss:
What Do We Fear?
Fear is funny. According to Osho in his book Fear, all of our fears are by-products of identification.
If you look at common things people fear:
1) Losing their job.
2) Losing their partner.
3) Losing their bank account.
4) Losing a family member.
5) Being judged by others.
6) Lacking importance.
And the overarching theme of these fears? Security. Whether this is emotional or financial security, all of of fears stem from this basic principle.
Humans are hilarious.
And why we put ourselves through such suffering – fearing events that haven’t even happened – I do not know. Perhaps it’s a victim mentality or an act of self pity.
What you really need to know is that fear is when humans live in the future. How can you fully live life in its totality if you’re not in the present? Osho argues when you’re not in the present, you’re NOT living. Crazy, I know.
Fear will always be there, but it’s up to us to decided what to do with – to stall or to evolve. Fear, ultimately is the absence of love.
We can either pity ourselves and succumb to fearful mental programming from our childhoods, or we can rise above it, take action, and transcend our thoughts into love. Because why?
Well, love has no boundaries, limits, no doubts. Love allows us to be open to life, no matter how the wind blows. Love is fearless.
As Osho says in his book, “Drop the fear. Consciously drop it and be mature.” At the end of the day, you’re an adult now and you can program your mind however the hell you want. Ahhhhhh, isn’t there comfort in knowing that?!
So if you’re scared of starting a fitness blog, a business, trying out for a new soccer team, trying weight lifting for the first time, taking the lead on a project at work, or speaking up to your boss, or posting content on social media, ask yourself: “What do I have to lose?” And the answers always is: nothing.
Remember, we are spinning around on a globe in the middle of the solar system. If the world ends, it ends. But let it end with you fully satisfied with the vigor and recklessness you chose to live your life.